Since gift-giving season is in full swing, you may be wondering what to give the new dad in your life. His list may be a little different than it has been in other years, so here are five great gifts for new dads.
Wireless Noise-Cancelling Headphones
A nice pair of wireless noise-canceling headphones may be just the ticket for a new dad who is adjusting to having a new baby. Because crying babies can be stressful. So he can use them to have a little break, and then pass them along to his partner when it’s her turn to have a break. And you get bonus points for giving him a gift his significant other can use too.
A Book They Can Read Together
Choose your favorite kid’s book(s) that you know he’ll love to read to his child. Go for some classics, or some new favorites, or something that will appeal to parent and baby alike. And you can never go wrong with a little Dr. Seuss or Eric Carle. You just can’t.
New Dad Survival Kit
Yes, these are a thing. And they’re pretty amazing. If buying a prepackaged kit isn’t appealing, put together a kit of your own. Fill it with the things you know he’ll need, accompanied by some of the things you know he loves. (Think diapers AND his favorite beverage. And maybe a classic movie you know he’ll want to watch with his kid one day.)
Free Babysitting Gift Card
Sometimes, the best gifts are the ones that don’t cost a thing. Offer a punch card of free babysitting to allow your favorite new dad (and new mom) some much needed time together away from the house. If you’ve been a new parent you’ll remember how important a little couple togetherness time helps, especially when you feel totally immersed in your baby.
Owlet Smart Sock 2
What new dad wouldn’t appreciate the gift of peace of mind and some sleep? The Owlet Smart Sock tracks your baby’s heart rate and oxygen levels and is designed to notify you if either falls out of range. And everyone knows that getting sleep as a new parent is one of the best gifts of all.
What are some of the gifts you most liked giving/receiving as a new parent? You can also check out our gift guide for soon to be moms!
Humans were created with the ability to feel emotion, so it’s entirely okay to feel all the feels when you decide to leave a career to become a stay at home mom. It’s new, it’s different, and it’s sad to leave familiarity. Read this guide for tips to help you make the transition from a working mom (or dad) to a stay-at-home mom (or dad).
Don’t underestimate your value
All changes are hard. There is an adjustment period and perhaps even somewhat of a grieving period as you face giving up something you’ve done for so long and worked so hard to attain. It is normal and expected to feel mixed emotions, so let them process. However, don’t ever give in to the notion that being a stay-at-home-mom is less important than any other job. Different doesn’t mean unequal. Just like society depends on jobs in every sector of the market to keep things going, society needs mothers to raise the next generation into good, responsible adults. There’s a very strong argument for parenthood being one of the most important jobs you can have. After all, if we all decided there were more important things to do than having and raising children, we would be the last generation on earth, wouldn’t we?
Take care of yourself
Even though you’re leaving your job, you don’t have to leave your hobbies and the rest of your routine. If a regular yoga class was important to you, keep it. If a monthly girls night out was always on the schedule, maintain the tradition. It’s important to take care of yourself, for you are important as well, despite how demanding a baby can be. It may be hard to find a balance between juggling the responsibilities of taking care of a baby and self-care, but remember that there are others in your shoes. Create a support system of other new moms to share advice, tips, and favors as you all try to navigate this big change in your life. There are a lot of online support groups on Facebook, Instagram, etc. where you can share advice, stories, or just vent.
Consider at-home work
If you have plans to return to work in the future, perhaps you can work part-time from home or volunteer occasionally to maintain your skills and an updated resume. It may not be in the cards for a few months or even years, but there will always be work to be done and help that is needed in the world and your willingness to serve and experience as a mother will be valuable.
One way to help you adjust to the changes and overcome the feelings of grief from leaving a career is to develop an attitude of gratitude. Realize that there are many parents that must return to work shortly after baby is born out of necessity, and wish they would stay at home. Consider your routine before you came home – waking up, drinking coffee, getting to work on time, taking a scheduled lunch break, coming home in traffic, unwinding with Netflix, etc. Chances are, your new routine with your baby is a lot less predictable and, what’s more, it’s full of amazing milestones! You get to watch a human take their very first steps, speak their very first word, and literally watch them grow before your eyes. That is an incredible miracle.
This will become your “new normal.” You will get into a routine, learn what to do, and become an expert at raising your child, and after a while, you will probably realize you can’t imagine doing anything else. Life is too short and childhood especially is too short to spend a single minute worrying what anyone else is doing or what anyone thinks about you. Nobody else in the entire world or history of the world is the same as you or your children, so the way you live your life should not be compared to anyone else. Trust your instincts and realize this precious time is so short. I mean, do you remember much of your childhood? Especially the early years fly by so quickly, so realize that this is just a phase of life, and give it your best shot.
Treat it like a job
Every job requires continuing education, consistent training, etc. Parenthood is no different. It doesn’t always come natural, and other people do have advice and techniques you might not know about that could help you. So read books and articles, and devote time to learning more about this job to be the best mom you can be. After all, no other job in the world was as tailor-made for you as being the mother to your own child.
What helped you adjust from being a working mom to a stay-at-home mom (or dad)? Share with us below!
While you may think mom does all of the work during delivery, dad plays a vital role in ensuring a smooth, stress-free delivery and can make all of the difference in how it goes. Here are 6 labor and delivery tips for dads to help make the big day run smoothly.
1. Educate yourself about the delivery
Don’t be caught off guard by the medical lingo you hear the doctors and nurses discuss regarding your wife and baby. Take the time during pregnancy to read books, watch videos, listen to podcasts, etc. that are educational and helpful about the process of labor. Understand the various procedures that will or could happen, and as much terminology as you can. Look up things about your doctor or the doctors who could be on call, what their experience is and what they believe. Some doctors will list articles they’ve published about natural labor, or the importance of skin-to-skin, or the avoidance of the use of forceps. Knowing what’s important to your doctor and what they’re areas of expertise are can help you in your interactions with them and the decision-making process.
2. Pack yourself a bag
Of course make sure your wife has a hospital bag packed with everything she and the baby will need, but you’re going to be spending a lot of time there, too. Don’t get stuck greeting visitors with stinky breath from not having a toothbrush, or worrying about your BO rubbing off on the baby when you hold him/her. Have your own bag packed ahead of time with all of the essentials you’ll need for at least 2 days in the hospital. Hopefully you’ll be able to get out of there on time and with no complications, but 2 days should get you through until you can leave or can ask someone else to pick up anything else you’d need.
3. Take charge of communications
On that note, you’ll want to announce the baby’s birth when he/she is born, but probably want to avoid your phone’s ringing off the hook during that precious time. Allow mom the chance to bond and recover peacefully by taking charge of all communications. Set up a phone tree where you’ll call 1 or 2 people, and then they will make calls or announcements according to your wishes. Make sure your wife is feeling up to visitors before people are allowed in the room, and basically be a buffer between the rest of the world, your wife and new baby. There is no feeling like holding your brand new baby in your arms for the first time. Savor that feeling and moment as much as you can before letting the rest of the world in.
4. Learn relaxation techniques for yourself and mom
Labor can take a while, and result in long stretches of discomfort and uneasiness. Waiting for test results or progress in the labor can be stressful, but it’s extremely important that you handle this stress constructively. Learn breathing techniques, learn how to relax your muscles, learn how to slow your heart rate, and learn how to coach your wife to relax. There are recordings you can find that can help you relax, and don’t hesitate to use them. Clear minds make rational decisions, and this a time when you need a clear mind.
5. Be strong
You may have to make some tough decisions. Sometimes emergency C-sections happen. Sometimes when the baby is born, he/she needs immediate care and is taken away right after delivery. Doctors will still be focusing on your wife and ensuring her body is taken care of, so that leaves a lot of wondering what you should do. In these situations, it’s important for you to keep your composure. Difficult decisions may need to be made, and they will likely fall on your shoulders. Keep perspective and a level head to make decisions in the best interest of your family, keeping in mind your wife’s wishes if she is unable to be a part of the decision-making process.
6. Love her unconditionally
This may seem obvious, but hear me out. Pregnancy, labor, and delivery cause huge changes in the body not only physically, but emotionally as well. Hormones necessary to help her and the baby’s body grow and develop normally can take a while to go back to normal, and can result in actions and emotions from your wife that you don’t recognize. Realize that her words and behavior are largely influenced by hormones and body chemistry, and while she may even get easily frustrated or take out her stress on you, remember to love her, “through sickness and health,” and that this is the time she needs you the most. Be strong for her. Talk calmly; don’t let yourself get caught up in the emotions. When one of you is weak, the other must be strong. Continue being kind, continue serving her, and try to meet her needs. This time will pass and things will change, but your life for each other should not.
If you’re an avid reader of this blog, you’ve probably read our first post about seven ways to include your partner in your pregnancy. Today, we’re back with seven more ideas, to help your partner feel the excitement and experience of preparing for your baby to arrive.
1. Plan a birth announcement/gender reveal party that focuses on the two of you.
Collaborate on fun ways to announce that you’re expecting, whether it’s a “We’re expecting” card, or a fun social media proclamation. If you’re into the whole gender reveal party trend, plan it together to up the fun factor. And make sure you have someone on hand to document your reactions.
2. Help his friends plan a “Dadchelor” party.
This is a fun way to give your partner a fun night out with friends that can also be about the baby. Help or encourage them to plan a night at his favorite restaurant, or get tickets to his favorite sporting event. Or have a fun barbecue in your backyard… baby-themed decor optional, of course.
3. Register for baby items together.
If you’re married, this is a fun throwback to when you registered for wedding gifts, and it’s also a great way to jointly select items for your baby. That way, you both can discuss your thoughts about what baby needs, and decide together. Also, using the scanner is super fun.
4. Jointly write your baby letters in a journal or blog.
Take it week-by-week, and write your unborn child letters about how you feel about her and her impending arrival. Document these in a physical baby book or on a private blog. Trust me, these will be treasures both before and after baby is here.
5. Read a baby book together.
Reading a baby book together (like this one) is a wonderful way to plan for your baby’s arrival together. It can also open a dialogue about expectations and goals that can be really constructive. Be open to your partner’s suggestions and don’t be afraid to try things that you might not have considered on your own. After all, you’re a team!
6. Plan a Babymoon.
Make room on your schedules for some quality one-on-one time before baby. Whether it’s a staycation at home or a fun destination location, take the time to bond and talk, because your dynamic will change once the baby comes home.
7. Ask him to baby proof the house.
This is an especially good idea if your partner or spouse likes to be handy, as he can install all the baby gates, doorstoppers and outlet covers throughout your home. Nesting activities like this help create excitement for the new baby, and make her forthcoming debut all the more exciting.