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I Stood Up To My Doctor, and So Should You.

May 14, 2021

I had a really uncomfortable experience at a new doctor’s office. I need to share it because more women need to feel comfortable speaking up when they’re unsure of what a healthcare professional wants to do.

Let’s just jump right in here: vaginal checks are uncomfortable for me. That can probably go without saying. They’re awkward, painful, and I just don’t like them. I seem to always get crampy and sometimes get infections afterwards and I really just tense up when I know they’re coming.

So imagine how I felt when I was blindsided with one at my “new patient” visit at a new doctor’s office.

Since I had moved, I made an appointment with a new doctor’s office. They scheduled me a “new patient” appointment and told me I’d just be meeting with a nurse practitioner and would meet with a doctor or midwife for my next, real OB appointment. They didn’t tell me anything about a cervical exam.

I arrived and was prepared to fill out a lot of paperwork and answer a lot of questions, which I did. The NP was nice enough, asked lots of questions, and told me about the next appointment. But then, she told me to undress from the waist down for a cervical check.

She then left the room.

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As I stood there a little shocked, I started thinking…

“I’m only 26 weeks, why do I need a cervical check? My other doctor didn’t start checking my cervix until 36 weeks, and warned me at the appointment before that it would be coming. I hadn’t had any cramping or bleeding or anything unusual, so why would she want to check my cervix? She’s not even an actual doctor. She wouldn’t be doing any future checks because I’d be seeing an actual doctor, so why did she want one now, or at all? I didn’t get a chance to shower yet today. Ew. She didn’t even listen to the baby’s heartbeat, or listen to my heart or lungs. Shouldn’t my vitals be more important to check than my cervix at this point? They had already requested my records from my previous doctor, which included the results from a recent pap smear so they didn’t need to do one of those, and we had discussed that so that was clear, and they really didn’t need to do anything “down there” at all for that matter. This feels so weird.”

As all of this went through my head, I didn’t undress but instead opened the door and was surprised that she was standing right there. She asked me if I was ready and I told her “No, I’m just wondering why I need a cervical check if I’m only 26 weeks pregnant?” She said, “Because I need to get a baseline.”

And here’s where I was weak: I unconfidently replied, “okay,” and went back in.

But it wasn’t okay. I didn’t feel okay. I didn’t understand why she wanted a “baseline,” and at 26 weeks. She would never compare it to anything because she would not be seeing me throughout my pregnancy. Not to mention there was no medical reason to do one: it would be zero, nothing, closed, normal. There was nothing to indicate my cervix would be even close to ready to give birth, it wasn’t even close to ready when I was 38 weeks pregnant with my daughter. I’ve since researched and found that even at 36 weeks cervical exams are not necessary unless there are other signs that your body is getting ready for labor and could be starting the process, and that until 41 weeks it’s not necessary and can potentially cause more harm than good. That point is debatable, and I’m not totally against them, but at 26 weeks they are DEFINITELY not necessary. This article here was really bold and made me realize that this situation was not okay and that I can refuse cervical checks and everything will be okay.

But I got undressed and laid there shivering. I shiver when I’m nervous or have anxiety. The NP came in with a nurse and I cringed and squeezed my fists together while she checked. It felt so unnecessary.  I’m shivering as I’m writing this just thinking about it.

I left there feeling really violated. And I didn’t even tell my husband or anyone else about it because I was embarrassed.

What if I just didn’t know and that was their regular procedure?

What if they treat me differently because I said something about my being uncomfortable?

What if she’s a really respected member of the medical community and I’m pointing fingers at her?

I’ve already been reporting to friends that this office was great, so for me to speak out now about this concern would make me sound less credible. And to be honest, it was great in every other aspect.

It took me nearly 2 weeks to realize that this event being on my mind for so long was not okay; that her continuing with the check even after I expressed my concern was not okay, and that my feelings of violation were not okay. How would I feel if this were my daughter feeling violated or that she had been undermined by a medical professional? Just thinking of her feeling the way I feel got me fired up.

That was my motivation. Who cares if I don’t sound credible, or need to switch doctors?  Even if this is standard procedure at this office, that should have been made known to me. Everywhere I’ve looked since says it isn’t. When I expressed concern to this NP, she should have acknowledged that and explained “I know it’s earlier than normal, but we do them early here because ___.” I should have been told that it wasn’t a necessary procedure. I understand that in this line of medicine there is a need for caution, but this isn’t my first go-around at an OB office and I know the drill, I’m not just thinking back on it and looking for things to be upset about. I was vocal and expressed concern, but it was not acknowledged.

So I took action.

I called the office that deals with ethical concerns. I still felt embarrassed that I had waited so long and that they would question me because of it. I only got an answering machine and left a message. I decided to call another patient services line because I needed to get this out. I got through to someone and she said I could tell her what happened and if I needed to talk to someone else she’d transfer me to the correct department.  I explained my situation straightforwardly, like I did above. She apologized and said she understood, and that she’d talk to the management team. She said she wasn’t sure if it was common procedure but even so, they definitely want to prevent this from happening to anyone else and that the management team, or even her personally, would follow-up with me. Her phone call was reassuring and I felt better that she understood my concerns and felt it necessary to take action.

I didn’t hear anything the next day, but the day after that I got a call from the same girl who worked in the patient services department whom I had spoken to previously. She said she spoke with management and they’re going to have the provider call and explain herself to me. I also sent a message on the online portal that this office uses to the doctor whom I wanted to see on future appointments and asked him if I should expect cervical exams at appointments now, and if this office does them starting at 26 weeks. I felt better knowing that the management team in patient services was going to address my issue with the NP, but I still wanted to know if this was a standard procedure and if they would want to do one at every appointment. I also wanted to be clear from the beginning that I would NOT be comfortable with that.

The doctor responded promptly and, in all caps, told me that “NO” they do not do routine cervical checks at every exam, and he told me what I could expect at our upcoming appointment. So that cleared up that question. I still haven’t heard back from the NP or the patient services department, but I at least have peace of mind knowing that my doctor does not regularly do them. I was planning on switching offices if it was a normal procedure for them to start cervical checks so early.

Now I’m just waiting to hear why this NP randomly decided to do a cervical check on me with no warning, no medical reason, complete disregard for my concerns, and against protocol. I don’t even want to think about what the reasoning could be. Not that it matters anymore – I needed her to explain herself weeks ago when I was shaking with nerves in the cold doctor’s office. I’m not sure what good her explanation will do, now. But if she’s doing random, early cervical exams on other pregnant women in that office, who knows if others have experienced complications as a result. I will definitely not let this slide.

But regardless of how that turns out, this was a good lesson for me to learn.

The bottom line is: I am in charge of my health and my body.

If I am not comfortable with a procedure or I don’t understand something, it needs to be explained to me and my provider needs to be respectful of my wishes. I am eager to meet with this recommended doctor because I understand that, especially in labor, sometimes circumstances arise where action must be taken immediately and it’s important to trust my provider to do what’s best for me. In the future, if I am put in a position where a questionable procedure is presented to me, the questions I will ask are:

  1. Is it necessary?
  2. What are the risks?
  3. What are the risks of NOT doing it?
  4. Can it be done, or will it be more effective, at a later date?
  5. Can I get a second opinion, first, or is it urgent?

But never again will I be passive or hesitant or bulldozed when it comes to something regarding my body or my health. I will ALWAYS be involved in the decision-making process.

 I want to hear from you. We need to change the way we interact with our medical providers, be more involved with our care, and encourage others to do the same.

Have you had a similar experience with your health care? It can be hard, but please share it with others, or even anonymously on this post. 

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Angela Silva

Angela graduated with her B.S. in Exercise and Wellness and is a NASM certified personal trainer who specializes in postpartum fitness and recovery. She enjoys writing, cracking jokes, and spending time with her family, preferably while fishing. She shares many of her life adventures on Instagram as @angelagrams

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27 thoughts on “I Stood Up To My Doctor, and So Should You.

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Sarah

While I was pregnant they never checked my cervix. I wish they had because at 17 weeks pregnant I started spotting, I was in labor. 33 hours of labor later my son was born and passed. Had they checked my cervix sooner I may have my son in my arms instead of just in my heart. 1 in 100 pregnancies end in a premature labor due to incompetent cervix.

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Kat

Thanks for sharing your point of view. I actually began my google search to find out why doctors didn’t perform more vaginal check! So this gives me perspective to think about. I have 3 friends who have lost a baby to an incompetent cervix and a sister who was put on bed rest from 20 weeks on and fortunately the baby survived. It’s one of those things you don’t normally know you have until you have lost a baby. It’s puzzling to me why they don’t just do more cervical checks as a standard if it could prevent these losses? There are ways to help reduce the risk of loss once you know you have the cervical problem. I propose they ALWAYS do a cervical check at 15-18 weeks, at least on your first baby. Luckily because of my family history I advocated my rights in the opposite way, I asked for a cervical exam and my doctor understood the need. My other sisters get checked too because there isn’t enough information about the problem so know if it’s hereditary or not. But you have given me some new insights to research the risks of an extra vaginal exams. I have not have the check on my second child since I had no previous complications, but for peace of mind sometimes I want it! But my check was not invasive, more like an annual check up. Used a light and the probe for the ultrasound and we were done in just a couple minutes.

It’s important to feel you can voice concerns to your medical team. I did, and I got the extra check and peace of mind I was looking for and would encourage women to always ask questions and speak up.

Anonymous

Sorry your NP and MD both did a piss poor job of communicating. It is standard practice to collect a swab to test for GBS (group beta strep) bacteria at 35-37 weeks. Vaginorectal is most accurate. And since GBS is rarely harmful to women but can have some severe consequences to baby, “not showing signs of infection” would be irrelevant.

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Jes

Evidence based care, points dead to rights, increase in pregnancy loss due to unnecessary cervical checks in pregnancy. The vast majority of cervical checks are unnecessary. That is an actual fact. It opens you up to a whole host of dangers. Unless there is an absolute medical emergency (i.e. incompetent cervix diagnosis etc ), studies show it is best not to. If a medical professional can not effectively assess their patient during pregnancy, labor, etc with out fisting their patient, they aren’t competent. Period. I find it rather odd, and outright creepy that you truly believe women beg for cervical checks. I think perhaps you may need personal psychiatric evaluation on the note. I’m currently 38 weeks, 3 days pregnant with baby #4. Not a single cervical check to date. Normal, healthy pregnant women typically don’t need them. I see a doctor who is also a midwife. Yep, they do exist. She left practicing in a hospital because she was sick of the many unnecessary abuses to women that you seem to enjoy perpetuating (sp?). ACOG now recommend’s that normal, healthy pregnant women have better outcomes with a midwife, and having the baby out of hospital. Hmm, gee, I wonder why…

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Alex Bergman

Of course you have a voice when it comes to your health…but you’re not a doctor and have zero experience in the medical field, correct? Why so panicked over a cervical exam? Shivers, extreme anxiety? These sound like other issues coming into play, which you should definitely explore with either a patient gyno or psychiatrist. Many countries are now insisting on checking the cervix earlier in pregnancy to prevent second-trimester losses. Speaking from experience, when you’ve had one of these you’ll be begging for cervical checks.

jacob

this is amazingly us full my gf is 38 weeks prego and i had though something was up when they had to check her three different times at her appointment and went agenst my gf telling them no and my question is if u tell ur ob no that u dont want a check up do they have to listen to you ?

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Britta

Omg I am so sorry that happened to you. I know it was a while ago now, but they were checking for Group B Strep. Someone should have told you that, allowed you to do the swab YOURSELF, and told you that you could even opt out of testing if you wanted to (although if you have a hospital birth, they automatically give you antibiotics in labor if you opt out of testing, as a “just in case” measure against baby getting the bacteria).

That is insane that they didn’t tell you what to expect. I recently went with my friend to her 37 week appt, and they at no point mentioned that she could go to the restroom and do the swab herself, until I brought it up. If I hadn’t, they would have done it for her (and she has a history of sexual assault, would NOT have been a good scenario).
UGH modern obstetrical care makes me so angry. I had an amazing midwife and homebirth, but many women aren’t so lucky :/

I hope you were able to get some closure and that if you have another pregnancy that it is a much better experience with providers!

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Jennifer Holder

There are sometimes reasons to check the cervix early in pregnancy. There should not be a standard time to check the cervix during pregnancy. Each person and pregnancy are different!
My daughter went to the hospital with clear bloody mucus discharge on December 2,2016. Proof of contractions on the monitor. The hospital didn’t check her cervix and gave no real explanation for the discharge.
At the hospital again on December 7, flooding clear discharge and still having contractions the hospital still didn’t check her cervix or the discharge. They gave her DIFLUCAN and said she had a yeast infection.
December 8, 2016 back to the hospital only 10 hours after her last visit. I started questioning why they hadn’t given my daughter IV fluids on December 2 when they stated that she was dehydrated, and why her cervix hadn’t been checked on December 2 or December 7. The nurse was very unethical and replied “WE DON’T CHECK THE CERVIX AT ONLY 24 WEEKS!” “IF YOU FEEL WE ARE SO INCOMPETENT, THEN WHY DIDN’T YOU BRING HER SOMEWHERE ELSE?”
My response was “HOW DO YOU KNOW ANYMORE THAN I KNOW THAT MY DAUGHTER AND GRANDDAUGHTER’S LIVES AREN’T IN DANGER?”
Well between my daughter crying in excruciating pain and my attitude, the nurses checked the discharge and yes her water had broken. Then they checked and her cervix was fully dilated.
An emergency c section was done and the doctor told me there was signs of placental separation.
My granddaughter was born at 1 pound 9 ounces at 24 weeks 6 days and is expected to remain in the NICU at a different more competent hospital until her original due date of March 24,2017.
This all could have been postponed or prevented had they simply checked her cervix.
IF YOU FEEL SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH YOUR BODY DEMAND ANSWERS.
Just because they are medical professionals, doesn’t mean they are competent. Don’t allow them to disregard you.

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Karen

Angela…I am sorry you were treated that way because every patient deserves respect and should have everything explained.
I am a nurse and a mother. A cervical check really depends on the provider and sometimes you can have a problem and not realize it…until someone checks it. Many women have had multiple losses due to an incompetent cervix and not all have obvious symptoms. I think getting a baseline past the time of viability is a good practice. Women that are young with a first pregnancy often never think things can go wrong…but they can.
However, she should listened to your heart and lungs, looked at your skin, etc. To me, that was a bigger issue.
I agree you need a different provider.

Dina

I am sorry but I disagree with your post.
I had a loss at 20 weeks because my OBGYN failed to check my cervix during pregnancy and assumed I was very healthy. To our surprise I had cervical incompetence and I lost the baby.
This could have easily been prevented if I was checked during my regular visits. I had few symptoms such as low back pain and some suprapubic pressure but he brushed me off saying “your ligaments are stretching”!

Linda

I had a recent experience as well. My OB keeps rescheduling my appointments because she is out of the office with her NP. The last appt I went to I thought it was going to be a regular check up just like always. Listen to the baby’s heartbeat, measure the tummy, and take my vitals. This time the NP wanted to get a vaginal culture. I am 37 weeks pregnant and have not had any symptoms of infection so I questioned her and asked if we can do it on the next visit. She said no and that I had to do it that day since I was so close to delivery. I complied and went ahead and undressed hesitantly. The NP was very quiet the entire time and usually other providers have talked to me throughout the procedure to calm me down. She went ahead and did the vaginal culture. Then a few seconds later I feel a poke in my rectum. I immediately yelled at her and asked what the hell she was doing! She told me to relax and I yelled NO you did not mention a rectal exam! I was so upset! I was so overcome with anger and emotion that I immediately began to cry because she caught me way off guard. I left the room in tears and other nurses that were outside asked me if I was okay and I couldn’t even speak. I went up to the front desk to schedule my next appointment and the receptionist asked me to step to the end of the table and asked me what was wrong. I explained to her as much as I could sobbing how the NP made me feel so uncomfortable and that I never wanted another appointment with her. Luckily the receptionist was very nice. She apologized and said she wouldn’t schedule any other appointments with that specific NP. I still get so angry and emotional every time I think about it. I tried to call quality management to file a complaint but was only able to leave a message. And have not received a call back yet. Thank you for sharing your story. I definitely think that doctors and NP’s should communicate with their patients. In my experiences most do, but in this case I was completely blind sided by a NP who has no communication skills whatsoever!

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SK

I am 10 weeks and just had my first appointment yesterday. The OBGYN wanted to do a papsmear and check my cervix but I pushed it off till the next appointment (part 2 of the first prenatal appt. as they call it) because I get extremely uncomfortable during these tests (chills, shakes, cramp my legs etc.). After talking to my husband more and my mom they are saying to forego these tests so I will try to push them off because we all feel there is no reason to disturb things unless something is clearly not right. Any thoughts?

They did do an ultrasound and she checked the uterus with fingers and said it felt normal.

I had a papsmear and the cervix exam last year in October when I was expecting for that very first time and results were normal, however, I miscarried later in the fourth month due to spotting which I feel they had no real input on other than “you could’ve done nothing different” and it appeared to be due to an earlier hemmorage to the placenta. This time I am taking the time to avoid any procedures that could potentially do more harm than good. Thank you for your article and the info, glad to see we are not alone.

Anonymous

I am at the end my second pregnancy and in neither pregnancy have I been checked before 38 weeks. I had a very healthy first pregnancy but had to have a c-section due to the baby’s distress. This time I’m doing just fine again. And noticed no cervical check at 37 weeks and we’re good to go for a vbac.

Angela B.

I thank you for this article recently I had to give up my obgyn of 15 years bc I moved about an hour away , I got highly recommended to a obgyn where I live first regular visit was fine second visit I was newly pregnant and was told at every exam there would be an ultrasound , which I knew from working in the field was unnecessary but dismissed it . At my 10 week spot I was told there was no heartbeat but to wait another week in case one popped up ? I was in tears and my gut instinct knew this doctor was not for me . I went to the hospital the next day for an U/s and they confirmed what I already knew – I was mis carrying . The doctor on call called my obgyn and her answer was go home and miscarry in your own ??? I was mortified not an ounce of sympathy . She waited four days to call me in the meantime I called my old obgyn who came to my rescue ! I knew my body and my mental state and knew this doctor was not for me … I finally called the office and told them in a nice way that the doctor wa snot for me and I went for a follow up w my regular obgyn . They were very nasty to me for no reason but it’s my body and I was not comfortable at all how she handled my situation .

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Angela Silva

Ana,
Thank you so much for your input. That is definitely sound advice, and cervical checks can be very beneficial in identifying problems. My mentioning my previous pregnancy and cervical sitaution was just in regards to what went through my head when my provider only responded to my concerns by saying she needed a baseline. As you and others have mentioned, there are several reasons to get a baseline at 26 weeks, but I was not informed of any of them or told that this was standard procedure or anything. I have since spoken with her and the medical director of the facility and will be writing a follow-up post about my experience. Had I known in advance that this was standard I would’ve been able to do my own research and feel more confident consenting or declining the procedure. My wish is that all women feel comfortable asking questions and providing feedback to their providers to improve their experiences and overall communication between all patients and providers.

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Ana

Dear Angela,

I am sorry that you felt violated, but i have to disagree with your opinion on the subject. Cervical check for base line is very important; be it your first, second or any other number pregnancy. While you have already had some good points brought up by readers in comments, i would like to stress that having a previous complication free pregnancy does not guarantee that any following pregnancies will also be problem free. There are different types of IC. Among them there is an acquired cervical incomptence. It is unfortunately falls off many drs. radar if a women has had one or more successful pregnancies. And unfortunately it means that follow up pregnancies can end with a loss. My point is, you saying in your article that your cervix was not even ready at 38weeks in your previous pregnancy can give your readers a false impression that they are immune to pregnancy complications as far as their cervix is concerned. I feel it is important that you, perhaps, make a note at the end of your article encouraging your readers to read the comments. And yes, standing your ground, asking questions, being informed and educated to act as your own advocate is important. It is also a good idea to “interview” a dr, or a few, before you decide if that health care provider meets you standards and makes you feel comfortable to communicate openly with them. And if one is able to do so before getting pregnant than its even better.

Kind Regards,
Ana

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Angela Silva

Kathryn, thank you so much for your feedback, you are dead on. I am working on a follow-up post because I learned quite a bit from this experience.

I did talk with the nurse practitioner and also the medical director of the facility. While there was some miscommunication for which they apologized for profusely, they also pointed out that she was acting in accordance with the guidelines set forth by the ACOG. I just didn’t understand that at the time, which is where the error and confusion was.

I wrote this post before finding out a resolution because I didn’t want it to be a crusade against these medical professionals (my own husband is one), but rather just what I’ve learned about being my own healthcare advocate. I’ve since needed another cervical exam for a medical issue and it was reassuring. I hope that rather than shy away from these exams, women can learn their importance and their risks and, as you said, weigh them against each other and make informed decisions. Being scared or intimidated can cause many patients to change doctors or avoid future care altogether.

My concern is, most women without some sort of formal education or training do not know much about their anatomy and how things work, or how things can go wrong. How do we provide these opportunities so more women can be confident advocates for their own health BEFORE a bad or uncomfortable situation arises? Most just trust their doctor and assume they know what’s best. I myself have taken anatomy and physiology courses as part of my degree coursework, but didn’t know more than the basics of what the cervix does and why cervical exams are performed, which is why this particular exam seemed out of the ordinary. I try not to look into everything that could go wrong to prevent unneccessary stress and anxiety.

I think the best and most realistic solution is, as you said, make sure you choose a medical practitioner you trust, and don’t be afraid to communicate concerns. Trust them, because they have been taught and have a greater knowledge of what’s going on than their patients (usually), but always research specific scenarios as things come up, making sure to use reliable sources. And if you do have a negative experience, make your concerns heard and provide constructive feedback to improve future interactions between the medical professional and all other patients.

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Kathryn Nguyen

You are absolutely correct that patients need to be their own healthcare advocates. Always. But that advocacy includes being educated on a slew of topics that everyday patients are often not familiar with and don’t come up until too late – like Krystal pointed out. Medical persons are, in fact, trained to at least be familiar with all the “what ifs”. Yes, you should have had further dialogue with the NP. Yes, she should have explained further. And those are excellent questions to ask that you listed.

I have two points to share with your future readers:
1. You should not distrust your medical practitioners automatically.
2. Though a manual cervical check is not desirable, the cervix DOES need to be checked at least beginning at 16 weeks when the lower uterine segment is fully developed. At that point, a transabdominal sonogram should be utilized in order to effectively view the location of the placenta, length of cervix, and state of internal os (a manual cervical check only looks at the external os and would not reveal any funneling that could ultimately cause fetal demise).

In the case of the cervix, when things go wrong, mothers learn quickly why cervical insufficiency is known as the silent killer.
Know your anatomy. Know the basics of how things ought to work. Know the basics of what could go wrong. Measure risks of interventions against risks of a problem developing.
Don’t ignore your cervix; don’t let your practitioners ignore your cervix.
(more information on cervical insufficiency on my blog http://www.beyondthisdesert.com)

Kathryn

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Angela Silva

You’re totally right, Krystal, and I’m so sorry you went through that 🙁
Those checks can be very important. I just realized that beacuse of my discomfort I almost didn’t go back and a lot of women have responded that because of uncomfortable experiences they had, they have let too much time pass in between checks, which introduces a whole slew of problems that can go unchecked, like you said. I just hope women feel comfortable talking to their providers and understanding what’s happening to them so they won’t hesitate to ask questions and get the very best care.

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Krystal

I’m going to be on the other side of this, if I had been checked earlier, I might not have had to bury two children due to possible IC. In my next pregnancy, I had a cervical check biweekly, then weekly from 19-28w, then biweekly until 35w.

I understand standing up for yourself if they are doing something you aren’t comfortable with. By all means, let your doctor know, but also know just as their is right in introducing problems, there is also risk that something can be over looked.

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Angela Silva

The NP gave me a call and told me it was standard for them to do a cervical exam on all new patients, regardless of how far along they were or if they had the records, but did apologize for the lack of communication, since I had no idea that was protocol or even coming. Today I asked my Dr. about it at my appointment with him and he told me he agreed that they overdid them. I sent an email to a Dr. who is on a committee that makes decisions on these things, and I told him my situation and that I believe this protocol needs to be changed. Hopefully he responds or gets me in touch with the right people so I can share my experience and prevent this from happening with other women!

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Angela Silva

Right?! I didn’t know either until it was too late. Now I’ll probably over-question everything, but that’s probably better!

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Lacey Pappas

Wow. This was so eye opening for me. I honestly wouldn’t have questioned the cervical check because I would just assume they needed to check. But, I think the most important thing is to listen to your gut. Sorry you had to go through this, but I appreciate you sharing your experience with us!

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Angela Silva

I definitely didn’t know until it was too late. If nothing else comes from this than other women knowing they can say no, I’ll be satisfied.

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LaRene

I would bet that most pregnant women don’t know that cervical exams are not only NOT necessary but potentially risky if done prior to their due date. Thank you for speaking up and turning this bad experience into something that could help a lot of mothers.

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Angela Silva

Thank you! Yes, the whole situation is bizarre and I’m eager to get some answers, but in the meantime I think a lot of women need to know they have a voice when it comes to their health.

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Aleisa Moses

As a nurse, I can’t think of any reason why the NP (and someone you would never see again anyways) would want a “baseline” cervical exam at 26 weeks. As a pregnant woman, my midwife didn’t even check me until 39 weeks and because I requested it to see where I was at, and then she didn’t check at 40 weeks. I am sorry this happened to you and I hope you can get some answers. We very much tell our patients to speak up if they have any concerns so don’t be afraid to speak up-you are in control! ☺️

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